It's the biggest challenge after a few months of trying: sex stops being sex and becomes a task. Roughly 1 in 3 couples trying for more than 6 months reports a significant decline in their sex life. The book answers with five concrete strategies, starting with not announcing "the day" to your partner.
"Today's the day, it has to happen." He feels pressure to "perform". She becomes an egg-production manager. Both end up exhausted. This can lead to:
Note the detail in the first item: it happens even in young, healthy men. The book calls sexual pressure the biggest strain on TTC couples.
Couples therapists who specialize in infertility exist in almost every large city. It's worth reaching out before the relationship takes permanent damage. Specialized couples therapy exists, and it works.
Pain during sex can indicate endometriosis or vaginismus, and significant pain during sex is on the book's list of reasons to see a specialist before the usual waiting time has passed. Persistent erectile or ejaculatory dysfunction is also one of his red flags, because it can point to hormonal or vascular problems that deserve evaluation.
Sexual pressure is the closing theme of Chapter 26 of Map to the Positive, "Sex at the right time", in Station III (Optimization). The chapter starts with the optimal intercourse strategy, so the fertile days are planned without turning every night into a test. The book's 90-day plan even includes keeping honest conversations with your partner as a checkpoint.
Take 30 days. If it does not give you more clarity than everything you have read for free so far, ask for a refund and you get every cent back. We cannot promise you a pregnancy. We can promise you will not be guessing.